Going Through Your First Heartbreak at 24

Most tv shows and movies will have you believing that someone's first heartbreak occurs around high school age...
(Disclaimer: Of course there can be other non-romantic relationship related heartbreaks that occur in your life, and those are absolutely valid and painful and real as well. But this story is about breaking up with a partner.)

I started dating this girl in September 2020.
Our first date was perfect.
Then a month later I asked her to be my girlfriend.
In the months that followed we celebrated her birthday, Christmas, Valentine's Day.
We held hands, went to the art museum, walked around the city.
Every time we were together was another little memory.
Another little piece of me being altered by being with this person whom I loved.
Then she got a job 800 miles away.
We decided to try long distance.
A few days before she left I realized that it wasn't going to work between us.
And we broke up.
I'm 24 years old and going through my first heartbreak now.
You need to know that there is no set age limit or time for this.
Nor for your first relationship.
It happens when it happens and you will be okay no matter when that is.

When we met for the first time, we had been talking for a month and a half. Our schedules were not compatible and we had had a difficult time finding a day that worked for us both.
We almost never met at all.
Part of me wishes that this would have been the case, so I didn't have to experience this pain that I'm feeling now. But then it just would have happened with somebody else.
I'm glad it was with her.
I wouldn't go back and change that for anything.

Now, after being together for 7 months, I've changed.
This experience has changed me.
Getting to fall in love with someone and grow alongside each other, to later break up, alters you in ways that I can't explain.
She made a mark on me and I hope that I got to change her a little bit too.
There will always be a special place in my heart for her, and that will never go away.
And that's okay.

To anyone else who is going through a breakup right now, no matter your age, know that it is okay to be sad, or angry, or even relieved. Know that you will be okay. Take time to heal. I believe that you will find love again, if that is what you want.

~Take care of yourselves and I'll see you soon.

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