College is Harder Than I Thought It Would Be

College is harder than I thought it would be and I am not having fun anymore.
This is something I texted my friend a few days ago, waiting for my last class of the day to start.
"College is lonelier than I anticipated. Why is making friends? So?? Hard???"
I know it's still the beginning, but I expected to have at least one friend by now!
I've been friendly, I've initiated conversations, I've been involved... where are my people!?
They always talk about the college work load, the stress, (which I've definitely felt already), or the homesickness.
But I never heard much about the Being Thrust Into New Social Situations and Re-Learning How to Make Friends.
It's hard.
From my perspective, people didn't seem as open and interested in friendship as I had hoped.
Seeing people who already have friends and tight connections only makes me feel more lonely from where I stand.
When I was in community college, I didn't mind as much. I had two classes per semester, and I wasn't all that interested in being involved. I just wanted to get in and get out with my credits.
But now that I'm "officially" in college, going full-time, trying to do as much as I can in this new, amazing place... I'm ready and open to making Good, Real Friends.
So where are they?!
I went home feeling deflated and sad that day.
Today, I had more peer-to-peer communication than I'd had all week, I think.
I'm officially a part of my college's radio station.
I had a good conversation with the editor of the school paper that I'm going to be a part of.
I'm collaborating with a classmate on a short film script.
I connected today. I felt seen today. I was uplifted today, by these people and conversations.
So small, so simple, but so meaningful to my heart.
So yes, college is tricky, difficult, a little bit lonely sometimes... but I think I'm gonna be okay.


See ya.

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