Phobia 1
I was cruising around Google today, looking for answers... of course. To see if anyone else understood. That I'm not crazy. That I'm not alone.
For the hundredth time I wondered if anyone else in the universe didn't want kids like me. Was afraid of being pregnant like me.
And I found it.
It's funny, how we always think that we're alone. When really, with the billions of people in the world... that's quite impossible.
What I found, is that the fear of pregnancy and childbirth is a legitimate phobia, and it's called tokophobia.
Tokophobia is defined as, "A pathological fear of pregnancy." It can occur in women who've had kids before, or not.
Some symptoms (triggered by sight, words, thoughts, etc.) include recurrent nightmares, panic and anxiety attacks, sweating and shaking, thoughts of death or dying...
If this sounds like you, please find comfort in knowing that you're not alone.
Having a family, including children, is such an ingrained part of our society. I don't like to talk about not wanting kids, because people don't respect my choice. It's so... shocking to others when someone verbally states that they don't want to have kids.
"You'll change your mind."
"Are you sure?"
"Well isn't that selfish?"
"What about grand kids?"
Please leave me alone.
If you do want kids, awesome!
If you don't, don't feel like it's an obligation for you to reproduce.
It's okay.
Besides the phobia, there is a list of why I don't want children.
Don't get me wrong, kids are great, and imaginative, and funny!
I just don't want to have my own!
Okay? Okay.
Please don't feel like you have to fit a mold of what society says you should be or do.
And be encouraged that you're not alone.
See ya.
For the hundredth time I wondered if anyone else in the universe didn't want kids like me. Was afraid of being pregnant like me.
And I found it.
It's funny, how we always think that we're alone. When really, with the billions of people in the world... that's quite impossible.
What I found, is that the fear of pregnancy and childbirth is a legitimate phobia, and it's called tokophobia.
Tokophobia is defined as, "A pathological fear of pregnancy." It can occur in women who've had kids before, or not.
Some symptoms (triggered by sight, words, thoughts, etc.) include recurrent nightmares, panic and anxiety attacks, sweating and shaking, thoughts of death or dying...
If this sounds like you, please find comfort in knowing that you're not alone.
Having a family, including children, is such an ingrained part of our society. I don't like to talk about not wanting kids, because people don't respect my choice. It's so... shocking to others when someone verbally states that they don't want to have kids.
"You'll change your mind."
"Are you sure?"
"Well isn't that selfish?"
"What about grand kids?"
Please leave me alone.
If you do want kids, awesome!
If you don't, don't feel like it's an obligation for you to reproduce.
It's okay.
Besides the phobia, there is a list of why I don't want children.
Don't get me wrong, kids are great, and imaginative, and funny!
I just don't want to have my own!
Okay? Okay.
Please don't feel like you have to fit a mold of what society says you should be or do.
And be encouraged that you're not alone.
See ya.
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